5 Reasons Your Baby Woke Up Last Night, And Every Night

January 8, 2015

Does your baby wake up multiple times during the night and you just can’t figure out why? You have a bedtime routine in place, he is tired after a day of activities and still middle of the night wakeups are consistently happening.


Well here are the 5 most common reasons that kept your child from sleeping last night!


Too Late of a Bedtime


Children need on average 10-11 hours of sleep at night for the first 9 years of their lives!  Take a look at a previous blog of mine where I specific exactly how much sleep children of various ages should be getting.


So with these numbers in mind, work backwards.  If your child is getting up at 7am to make it to daycare or school, is he asleep in bed by 8pm?


Nap Deprivation


Too late of a bedtime and skipped or short naps will create more night awakenings and poor quality sleep – not to mention an overtired child! It might not be logical but it is true! Sleep begets sleep.


So again take a look at the sleep chart.  Children up to the age of 3 should be offered naps and even beyond that quiet time can be extremely beneficial on a daily basis.


Your Child Was Put To Bed Already Asleep


If you put your child to sleep by rocking, nursing, walking, bottle feeding, lying down with them (fill in the blank!) then they become dependent on you to put them to sleep. When your child wakes during the night (we all do) they will expect the same thing from you in order to go back to sleep. Learning to put yourself to sleep is a learned skill.  It is also a vital life skill and one of our many parenting responsibilities.  We teach our children to sit, walk and talk; let’s also teach them how to fall asleep on their own.


Inconsistency in your Nightly Responses


If you are inconsistent in how you put your child to sleep and how you respond to them when they wake up, you may inadvertently create more crying! Consistency in sleep coaching is your key to success!


Think about it.  How are you responded at each and every wake up at night?  Do you feed only at certain times of the night and not others?  Do you only co-sleep after a certain hour?  Do you sometimes let your baby cry for long period of time and then give up?  All of these examples are very common, but they do promote inconsistency in the parents’ response.


So the important thing to remember is to create a realistic plan and be consistent.


Underlying Medical Conditions


Medical conditions such as asthma, allergies, reflux and sleep apnea are all real and can affect sleep.  They should always be diagnosed and treated by a medical professional.


So now that you know why your baby is waking at night, let’s create a plan to teach her how to fall asleep on her own and stay asleep all night.  It is never too late.  I work with children right up to 6 years old who have yet to master this skill.  Contact me today for a free 15 minute consultation and we can discuss what your goals are and how we can customize your plan.